Bonding (Mama-Iman-Papa)

"The moment a child is born, a mother is also born."

Yes. It's true! We women find the bond with our baby immediately. The moment baby was born, when she first held the baby, the bond is created. When a woman breastfeed her baby, a hormone called "oxytocin" released. It triggers more milk production. This "love hormone" only produced during affectionate moment. It makes us feel good. From my reding, massaging your baby and snuggling also releases oxytocin.

That's how easy for us mamas to bond with our child.

But it's a different story with the papas..

It took awhile for papas to bond with their baby. I guess because most of the job dealing with infants are done by us, mamas..From giving birth to breast feeding, changing diapers..Urrm..yes, that's all babies need I guess.

What I did was I let my husband taking care Iman especially at night, so I'll get to sleep a little bit more. Don't worry mamas, papas and baby will do fine without you. Trust me! Don't be scared to let your husband takes care of your baby (but I'm afraid something might happen..). As far as I'm concern, the fact that papa wants to help is enough to show that they care for their child. Let them spend time together and some snuggling time with the baby while we...rest!

That's Papa bonding with Iman when she was just a few days old...

 And the result..the bonding between them!!

Love, <3

What type of mama I wonder to be?

April is almost over..Iman will turn to six month soon. Thank you Allah!! It has been a busy month for me..I'm in research mode for this April..and working in rice or paddy is known to be demanding in terms of working hours and energy spent! Hahaha..really exhausting but if you asked me..between lab and field, to be honest, I prefer to be at the field. Don't ask me why..It's just something I enjoy to do despite the heavy workload. It's like a love-hate relationship I have between me and the field..Hahaha..

Today I wanna write about being a mama..not about what I went through but what I wanna be in the future..

Will be a tiger mama? For those who doesn't know what tiger mama is, it's the kind of mother that takes childhood seriously..Childhood is about work now, play later!! A tiger mama takes her kid's future seriously and won't let anything get in the way. Tiger mama is very strict with their children and won't take "I can't" for an answer.

OR will be a power mama? This kind of mother is into career success. She's the type of person who's very proud of her career and at the same time wishes she could just chill out with other mamas. Trying to find balance in both world.

OR a laid-back mama? This type of mama couldn't care less about success. She's all about the path of least resistance. If the children want biscuit, let them have the biscuit..Whatever..As long as everyone is happy

For me, I wanna find balance between all three. I wanna be a hands-on mama. A kind of person who does homework with their children, teach them ABC, read the Quran, read them storybooks. I wanna spend time doing their science project together. I wanna be a friend to my children. They can talk to me about life, school, fashion..whatever they like..

I don't think I'll make the cut to be a tiger mama but I am very discipline person myself. Therefore, I'm definitely not really a laid-back type of mama. To me, family comes first. Career is important but nothing beats family.. 

=)

Yesterday in PD

Iman with her Papa

Our first outing day with Iman...

We were in PD yesterday evening. It was just a day trip. We drove down to PD after lunch and already back in Bangi by 7 pm.

Why PD? Just because I want to go there for mind theraphy (Haha..) It’s just so nice to be together with the family enjoying the nature..Serious, it's work! I got the idea now to write my thesis and of course feel confident for committee meeting next monday (May Allah ease everything, amin..)

Iman as usual, face with no expression (like Mama..haha) now 5 months old. Here she is with me.

Check out her thigh!! Yummehhh!!!

It was definitely a memorable day for us. Since we had too much mind-rest..and I need more mind theraphy like this (hehe..) we definitely gonna do this more often!!

#to my beloved husband, tqvm!♥

"turn-to-zombie" moment

Assalamualaikum w.b.t.,

I'm not a new blogger. I just stop blogging once at the moment for a reason (don't ask me why) and now I'm back!

Before I start talking (or blogging..) non-stop, let me tell you my definition of my “turn-to-zombie” moment..

Imagine this..you’re lack of sleep for days, physically exhausted from all things, your child is screaming for milk, you haven’t bathe, haven’t check your FB timeline for hours (ok, that is unnecessary but I love to read my FB timeline!) and all you want to do is just rest preferably in a quiet environment which is almost impossible!!

Admit it, you have had that moment before..I call it a “turn-to-zombie” moment! Haha..

I’m just a human. I’m not perfect, I love my child to bits but still I had my breakdown occasionally especially when I’m super exhausted. It’s ok to feel like that. It’s acceptable and only temporary. We are not angels. As long as we know how to manage it. It should be fine.

Knowing the triggering factor helps you a lot in managing your breakdown. At least you can try to avoid. Another important thing is to let your other half know. My husband has been a great support to me. He knows when I started to look like zombie walking around the house, he will take charge of the child and let me rest. And I do the same for him too.

Sometimes when he’s not around, what I do is I just close my eyes, take deep breath in and out until I feel better, then I switched back to my mommy mode.

If deep breathing doesn’t work, you can also blog about it and let the whole world know!!
 

Whatever she do, despite all the crying and sleepless night and screaming and the demands driving me crazy.. my lil' daughter is my life! I know my “turn-to-zombie” moment is just temporary.. it will go away! But my daughter is forever! :D

 

My respect goes to all stay-at-home-mom out there. They are just amazing doing same routine day in and day out (and no lunch break, no weekends off, no overtime claim). I’m a type of person who needs to work to become a better mom.

As for now, I’m just gonna enjoy my leave while I can..